On Friday I went out to lunch with 3 of my neighbors. These are woman I have known since I moved to my little town, so about 12 years. About 6 months ago we started to make a conscious effort to have lunch every so often, which has turned into about every 6 weeks. Its fine, small talk and gossip. But really not very fulfilling. Our lives are so different, I am the youngest of the group, but thats really not why. I suppose it becasue I just find some of the things they see as important as silly. Once we spent the whole lunch hour talking about ones new Jaguar, why she bought it, what her personalized plates mean, why she didn’t want a BMW like everyone else. Gee, all I could think of was why would you waste all that money on a car! I have a 6 year old Subaru and love it. But I kept my mouth shut, I didn’t want to be ousted from the group. I am not into material things, I like my stufff, but it doesn’t need to bet better than yours.
More recently I ran into another neighbor on my walk, this is someone I met as her son and Jake are close friends since 4th grade. She is close to my age, and much more down to earth. She and her son had Thanksgiving dinner with us (her husband was working), but I have never pushed the friendship as she is a very busy person. I mentioned if she ever wanted to walk together to call me. Well about a week ago she called and we have walked a few times together, I really enjoy her company. She is alot like me.
I am trying hard to establish more friends, that sounds corny but I get lonely sometimes. I force myself to be more social, and do things. Yesterday I found out that Jake will be taking summer classes At Chico and doing work study at the school, so will be home for only a couple of weeks. this saddend me since I really look forward to his companionship during the summer months. I suppose he is growing up.
I think it is great you are making friends! It is my friends that I lean on more than anything and that get me through life, 2nd to family, which, sometimes, the friends help out through my grief with THEM! LOL
The Jag-driving woman woman sounds exhausting to be with; I’m so glad you met up with the like-minded neighbor for walks!
I wish I had someone like you in my neighborhood for a walking partner. We have runners, and Power Walkers (capital letters required), who stride down the street at about 6 mph while hefting hand weights. Which is great for them, but not so much for me and my propensity for stopping along the way to look at shiny things.
I think that talking to people is really important, even when the conversation is about trivial things. The conversation about cars made you think about which things are important to you, so it was worthwhile.
Hey, why don’t we work on getting friendly(close) again? We will be moving up the end of the next school year and it would be nice to see you. My kids would love to meet my crazy partner from my crazy time in high school! (No, I didn’t tell them everything!). Email and lets get restarted!
Ok, get the point…tho I have missed you and our craziness!
Take care and have a good one!
where did ya go
Yeah, where are you? Your links are gone too, I would visit Daisy’s site through this one….what happened?